Saturday, April 10, 2021

Let’s start a wave of encouragement for others who need to hear hope today.

If you are celebrating your recovery and NEW identity in Christ, how would you describe your new life in Him?


Share your testimony today with one another!


Sunday, March 21, 2021

dealing with critics

 

Hi everyone,

You don’t have to please everyone in your life, and you don’t need everyone to like you. This applies to both your personal life and your professional life. Once you understand this, you can make decisions based on what is best, not on who is going to like it. In fact, not only do you not have to please everyone, you can’t … not even if you wanted to. It’s impossible. 

Once you understand that, you start spending your time and energy on things that bring meaningful results rather than on the impossible goal of making everyone else happy. You view criticism and feedback in a positive light, and you don’t let critics gain control over you. 

Let’s talk about how critics try to control you and what you can do about it.

Until next time … 

Cheers, 

Henry 

https://www.drcloud.com/

 

 

Friday, February 5, 2021

Gravy and Gratitude

 

Gravy and Gratitude
By Mary Owen

“It’s pure torture when you’re a growing teenager and an array of the greatest food ever created is laid out in front of you in the awe and splendor of your grandmother’s finest dishes, napkins bearing the images of autumn leaves folded neatly with gleaming silverware whispering sweetly to you, “Pick me up and dig in. What are you waiting for?  It’s going to get cold…eat, eat.” Then only to be interrupted by another voice, carried over the steaming mashed potatoes, the turkey and the stuffing asking the question that is the gatekeeper between you and an epic feast of magnificently gluttonous proportions...

 

“What are you thankful for?”

 

Sigh. What WAS I thankful for?  Same thing I am grateful for today, I imagine.  Each year the question was raised at our family Thanksgiving dinner. And I answered my monosyllabic gratitude with only enough enthusiasm to get me closer to those homemade rolls glistening with melted butter.

“Health.”

“God.”

“FOOD!”

 

I was asked this question again among Forever Family talking and laughing through our annual Fried Turkey “Fryday” Feast that preceded this past week’s Celebrate Recovery meeting.  Health, God, food, friends, family, a roof over my head, clothes on my back, safety, freedom, undeserved extravagant grace... I would have kept going, but the next batch of deep fried turkey that floated out of the church kitchen in the arms of one of our faithful volunteers had distracted the questioner.

 

What am I thankful for?  What am I truly thankful for?

 

I thought more about this question the next morning as I waited in the drive-through lane to buy an extra hot grande white mocha.  Am I thankful?  Am I?  I am aware of the blessings I have been given and I wouldn’t want to go without them.  I turn on the faucet in my bathroom sink and out comes clean, disease-free fresh water.  I casually flip a switch above the old leather chair in my living room and light floods the house.  I am cognizant of how “good” I have it, and have a theoretical (certainly not an experiential) knowledge of how bad it would be without these modern comforts.  But does that make me grateful?

 

In 1 Thessalonians 5:18 Paul writes, “give thanks in all circumstance, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

 

Maybe being grateful has nothing to do with what we have.  Maybe it has more to do with how we respond in the absence or delay of blessings.  Victor Frankl, an Auschwitz death camp survivor knew an existence where everything he had was taken from him.  About this he wrote, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

 

Perhaps it’s time to ask ourselves a different question before we pass the gravy around the table.  Not what we are thankful for, but will we choose a life of gratitude in any and all circumstances?  Are we able to say with the hymn writer, “whatever my lot... it is well, it is well with my soul?”

Tuesday, February 2, 2021

Celebration Place Launching

Celebration Place is officially launched!! 🚀

We are so excited to announce that Celebrate Recovery at Believers Church has launched Celebration Place children's ministry at the start of this new year, 2021. Celebration Place is a place where kids can come and learn about the recovery process in an age appropriate way. When the adults are learning about Denial or about making Amends, so are the kids. On the ride home from CR, imagine having a conversation with your kids about how God has the power to help us from a Principle 2 lesson night, and then you having the opportunity to sharing even more with your kids building off the night. WOW. Talk about Christ's power to restore families. 


We will put some resources and materials here on our blog to be able to help your family along utilizing this great tool of recovery. So, check back often





I Problem

 

I Problem
By Rodney Holmstrom

You will seek Me & find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.Jeremiah 29:13

I can remember being in Colorado on a camping vacation many years ago when our kids were pretty young. As we were walking in the great outdoors I saw some mountain goats on the side of some big rocks on the other side of the river and I took a picture of them.

To this day, we still can't distinguish the difference between the goats and rocks in the photo since the colors were causing the goats to be camouflaged amongst the rock. I know they are there, but we just can't see them.

Have you ever had eye problems? No, not 'eye' but rather 'I' problems? For a chunk of my life I found myself with 'I' problems that left me blind to seeing & experiencing His blessings and direction in my life. I was pretty sure I knew He was there but just couldn't see Him. Why? Because I was focusing on the wrong thing. I was focusing on myself and was staying in my unresolved dysfunction which kept me selfish and blind to His plan for my life.

Someone once said, "I pointed out to you the stars & the moon and all you saw was the tip of my finger.”

I am so grateful that as I have started tackling my character defects the Lord has improved my sight and focus. Less of me and more of Him is a good thing.

Today, I must again trust Him, & stop focusing on me, and turn my attention toward Him.

He has great things to show me and you.

Tuesday, January 26, 2021

How Celebrate Recovery Can Help You Stay Sober


 By |October 3rd, 2019|12 StepsPracticing Recovery

Since its inception in 1991, Celebrate Recovery has become a vital source of support for millions of men and women living with substance use disorders. The program is offered at over 35,000 locations around the world—including churches, rescue missions, recovery houses, universities, and prisons. If you’ve completed residential treatment and are preparing to make the transition back to independent living, we encourage you to learn how Celebrate Recovery can help you stay on track with your recovery journey.

About Celebrate Recovery

Celebrate Recovery is a Bible-based self-help group for people struggling with a wide range of hurts and hang-ups. These include:

  • Drug addiction
  • Alcohol addiction
  • Eating disorders
  • Gambling addiction
  • Codependency
  • Anger management
  • Past trauma or abuse

Like Alcoholics Anonymous, Celebrate Recovery does not charge members to attend meetings or require any pre-registration. Meetings are often held in churches, but you do not need to be a member of the hosting church to attend. You can find a meeting near you by using the meeting locator on the Celebrate Recovery website. State representatives are also available to provide assistance starting or expanding Celebrate Recovery groups.

Celebrate Recovery meetings ask members to abide by the same anonymity and confidentiality requirements as AA and other 12-Step groups. However, in keeping with the group’s Christ-centered focus, members are asked to refrain from using offensive language and graphic descriptions of addiction-related behaviors.

Program Basics

While Alcoholics Anonymous is sometimes viewed as a faith-based group, the organization is non-denominational. Members are free to interpret the “higher power” referred to in the 12-Steps however they wish. Celebrate Recovery expands on the principles of AA by adding a Christian focus. Members can attend Celebrate Recovery as an alternative to AA or as a supplemental source of accountability and support for their recovery journey.

Celebrate Recovery uses 12-Steps that are similar to Alcoholics Anonymous, but each step is paired with a Bible verse. For example, Step 1 says, “We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.” The corresponding Bible verse is Romans 7:18 NIV “I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.”

The Eight Principles form a road to recovery based on the Beatitudes. These were the words Jesus spoke at his Sermon on the Mount, which he began by stating that the pathway to change and happiness may not be exactly what we’re expecting.

Celebrate Recovery has three distinct lesson plans: Step Studies (small-group discussions of the 12 steps), The Journey Begins, and The Journey Continues. Typically, the program runs on a one-year repeating schedule.

How Celebrate Recovery Can Help You Stay Sober

There’s no one approach that works for everyone, but Celebrate Recovery can be an effective tool for lasting sobriety due to the following factors:

  • Members are encouraged to surrender to Christ. Spiritual commitment is the cornerstone of the program, using the Bible as God’s word.
  • The program places a high value on accepting personal responsibility. Members learn that while you can’t control everything that happens, you can control how you choose to respond to the circumstances you are facing.
  • The program focuses on the future, instead of going over the past and worrying about previous mistakes or misdeeds.
  • Since the program is open to people struggling with a wide range of hurts and hang-ups, some people may feel less stigmatized attending this sort of support group. The structure of the program also allows participants the freedom to choose to attend with a family member who wants to show their support for their recovery efforts.
  • Gender-specific open share small groups are held after the large group meeting to provide a place for participants to share concerns in a more intimate environment. This may be helpful for people who are uncomfortable sharing certain aspects of their recovery story in a mixed-gender environment.

You can learn how Celebrate Recovery has helped people find a way out of addiction by reviewing some of the member testimonials on their website.

Saturday, January 16, 2021

The key to processing grief

 

Hi everyone, 

Through tragedy we learn that when bad things happen, we can get through them. That knowledge then gives us the next time tragedy strikes. Our spiritual lives give us the strength to move on and give us other people to help us, which is critical because grief can only be accomplished in the context of relationship. We need others to hold us as we go through the process of letting down and letting go because we must have something good in hand to be able to let go of something bad. It's a little like being a trapeze artist: We can only let go of one trapeze if another is in view. 

Since grief is absolutely necessary for moving through life, and since it is an essential part of the growth process, we have to make sure it happens well in our life and in the lives of those we love. The only way it can happen well is in relationship -- the way it was designed to work. It is the reason tear ducts are in the corners of the eyes. Someone's grief should be evident as he or she looks into the eyes of another person. It's a relational process. Relationships provide care, support, structure and the balm of love to heal hurts. Get people grieving correctly -- with other people -- and they can get on with life. Grieving cures pain. 

Let's talk more about what is needed to grieve.

Until next time ... 

Henry