Over the past few weeks, many of you have reached out to me about wanting to hear more about safe and unsafe people. Many times we understand what makes someone unsafe. We find that if we have to walk on eggshells, we can’t be ourselves, and we keep our desires hidden because we don’t believe our thoughts and feelings are welcome.
So, what makes a safe person? Let’s take a look at this.
A safe person does three things for you:
Helps you become a better version of yourself. An unsafe person will influence you to become someone you’re not comfortable with. They may reject your ideas or discourage you from making healthy choices for yourself.
Helps you connect with other safe people. A safe person wants you to have others to reach out to and connect with. Safe families want you to go out into the world and build yourself into a better relational person. Safe people are not possessive.
Helps you to develop your spiritual growth. I’m a Christian, and my safe people help me to grow my faith and recognize my higher purpose in life. This should be true no matter your particular faith or what you believe — good relationships foster our spiritual growth and development.
Here’s the kicker: Though we have unsafe people who are part of our lives, we often wonder if they can change. Well, I hope so! Change is definitely possible. But, it’s like I was telling someone the other day — just because someone is sorry for the hurt they’ve caused you doesn’t mean they’ve changed. It may mean they want to be different, but you must be able to see tangible fruit to know the change is real.
Let’s talk more about safe and unsafe people right here.
Until next time …