Hey, guys.
People will use ”should” as a strong motivator for you to change. The
problem with this is the human response to “should.” When someone
tells you that you “should do this or that,” because they think it’s
right, you’ll want to naturally rebel. It’s the projection of shame.
So, when someone tells you, “You should be good,” you will find a way
to be bad. Maybe not immediately, but your mind will be inclined to
reject the notion for change.
It’s amazing what happens when someone makes the shift from should, and
they’re encouraged in a healthy way.
They see honesty not just as a virtue, but as they only way they’ll
have intimacy.
They see confession and ownership of their faults not as something
humiliating and guilt inducing, but as the way to grow and reach
goals.
They see listening to feedback and correction, not as someone telling
them they are bad, but as receiving a gift that will bring them life.
In other words, when someone isn’t under the shame of “should,” they
see it as the way to life. Let's dive into this further.
Cheers,
Henry
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