Tuesday, December 27, 2016

7 Personal Roadblocks Keeping You Stuck Right Where You Are

By Dr. Henry Cloud

Consciously or unconsciously, we are all driven to grow. We see a future that we want to live in, and we are either able to intentionally get there, or we cannot. A major determinant of whether you will get there or not is simply that you actually believe that you can.
We carry around a huge amount of personal baggage from our past experiences that informs our attitudes about the future. In many cases we develop a sense of learned helplessness that causes us to believe that we will never be able to get the future we want. This self-defeating logic is reinforced by our own inaction toward overcoming this baggage from our past. It becomes a pattern.
We get used to not getting what we want. We come to believe that it’s normal. That it’s simply the way things are.
Before we can overcome these issues, we have to understand what they are. This is by no means an all encompassing list of issues that characterize bad past experiences that can prevent you from realizing your own ability to move toward your desired future, but if you recognize yourself in any of these, it’s time to get to work.
1. You have historically associated closely with, and strongly feel a part of a group of people who are not finding success in love, life or work.
2. You have been so focused on simply getting by that you felt like you were unable to actually learn new ways to be better.
3. You were brought up in a religious tradition or other circumstance that instilled you with strong feelings of guilt and shame, but never focused on positive qualities like love, intimacy, vulnerability and learning.
4. All of your past relationships have caused tremendous pain and ended badly, leading you to believe that is simply an inherent quality of all relationships.
5. You have plateaued when pursuing your goals, and you come to believe that you are simply not the kind of person who is capable of achieving the success you want, incapable of understanding why others are able to reach their goals.
6. You have believed that you are just not trying hard enough when it comes to your goals, and later when you do try to commit stronger to achieving your goals with the same mindset and more effort, you expect things to turn out differently.
7. You associate change primarily with things turning out badly. Therefore change is scary and something to be avoided. You may not be happy with the way things have been, but they could likely be much worse.
What these dilemmas all have in common is that they use the past as a basis for constructing the future. They cause us to forget our own talents and abilities, to undermine our own skillfulness and resourcefulness. They squash our ambitions by prioritizing fear over risk and reward.
The experiences described above are universal. Every successful person has faced some variation or combination of these scenarios, and yet they have managed to get wherever it is that they were aiming at.
Why is that? Is it that others simply have greater abilities, or more potential? No. It is that they have not allowed the past to become a myopic lens for viewing the future. They have distilled experience into wisdom. They have recognized that failure and difficulty are necessary opportunities for stretching our abilities to enable growth.
The essential thing that you must do is to take the lessons you have learned from the past and put those lessons into practice by actually doing something. You will not overcome any one of these by letting the clock run out. There is no way forward in doing nothing. If what you have tried in the past has not worked, try something different. We are often drawn to work harder because we are choosing the more familiar path. That path is our default setting. It is often our first idea, and the one we feel most comfortable setting forward with.
But growing is not about feeling comfortable, it is about moving forward through the thick grass toward foggy vistas and breaking through all of that to discover new territory. The future does not live in the past unless you stay stuck where you are. The future is where you are going, not where you have been.

Saturday, December 17, 2016

A tiny Christmas TIP

Hey Friends, I just want to give you a little Christmas tip. And you may or may not know in CR, most of our lessons are built around an acrostic. So the acrostic this Christmas is TIP. Here’s my Christmas TIP. Pay attention to the small stuff. The T stands for tiny. The bible says “Do not despise this small beginning, for the eyes of the Lord rejoice to see the work begin,”,,,Zec 4:10. You could say the biggest event in all of history started with a very small seemingly insignificant beginning, the birth of a baby to a young couple in a small town many years ago. That tiny beginning has and is continuing to change the entire world one small life at a time. So please do not discount the hugs, the kisses, the sharing the laughter the small gestures of love this Christmas or anytime for that matter. God himself comes on the scene in small ways and then all the earth can rejoice. The I stands for Imagine. How absolutely incredible it is to know that the living God sent his only Son so that whosoever would believe in Him would have everlasting life. The angel proclaimed, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy. It is for all people. A savior has been born to you. He is Christ the Lord. Glory to God in the highest peace goodwill toward men.” Lk 2:10-14.Imagine that. It’s true! The P stands for Plan. God has had a plan for you since before the foundation of the world. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jer 29:11 God’s plans are so much better than our plans. We may think we are small and insignificant in the big picture, in the eternal scheme of things. But God doesn’t think that way. Because His plan is that you and I are to carry the message of the Christ to the world. That is no small thing. “Christ in you the hope of glory.” The hope of eternity with God. A TIP is just a small thing but with God it can make a huge difference. Have yourself a Merry Little Christmas! Celebrate Recovery Believers Church Jim & Pam

Friday, December 9, 2016

The Twelve Gifts of Life Recovery

These twelve attributes are not just results or outcomes for people in recovery, but truly gifts from God. They show that recovery doesn't merely provide escape from a destructive problem. It also points toward possibility of a new and exceptional life.
1.     Hope—"We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love" (Romans 5:3-5, page 1437).
2.      Power—"For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13, page 1526). "For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline" (2 Timothy 1:7, page 1561).
3.      Character—"But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!" (Galatians 5:22-23, page 1505).
4. Clarity—"Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity" (1 Corinthians 13:12, page 1472).
5.     Security—"Fear of the Lord leads to life, bringing security and protection from harm" (Proverbs 19:23, page 807). "If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won't he also give us everything else?" (Romans 8:31-32, page 1442).
6.      Abundance—"And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19, page 1526).
7.      Wisdom—"Fear of the Lord is the foundation of wisdom. Knowledge of the Holy One results in good Judgment" (Proverbs 9:10, page 796). "If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking" (James 1:5, page 1600).
8.      Self-Control—"But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you" (Romans 8:9, page 1441). "But the Holy Spirit produces ... self-control" (Galatians 5:22-23, page 1505).
9.      Freedom—-"So Christ has truly set us free. Now make sure that you stay free, and don't get tied up again in slavery to the law" (Galatians 5:1, page 1504).
10.      Happiness—"Make me walk along the path of your commands, for that is where my happiness is found" (Psalm 119:35, page 764). "The hopes of the godly result in happiness, but the expectations of the wicked come to nothing" (Proverbs 10:2, page 796).
11- Serenity—"I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love" (Romans 8:38, page 1442).

12. Peace—"I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don't be troubled or afraid" (John 14127, page 1366)
from Life Recovery Bible.....